Tuesday, March 30, 2010

The Adult Privilege Checklist

This is just great, some very interesting food for thought - so I thought I'd share:

http://shutupsitdown.co.uk/2009/11/1...ege-checklist/

The Adult Privilege Checklist

As a child:

1. I am not legally allowed to vote, even though government makes decisions about me and people like me.

2. If I need a caregiver, he or she will not be my peer.

3. It is often considered acceptable, appropriate and even desirable for my caregiver to physically assault me if I do not please them.
a. In many places I can legally be physically disciplined in my place of education.
b. If I am hit, even once, by a loved one, that is not normally legally considered abuse.
c. It is likely that I am smaller than the person assaulting me, and that I will be unable to defend myself.
d. If I am behaving in a way others do not like (or my caregiver has decided they no longer wish to be in a certain place), it is considered acceptable to physically pick me up and forcibly remove me from the area/situation.

4. If I am routinely yelled at, criticized, and belittled in my own home, this might not generally be recognised as abusive behaviour.
a. My physical and emotional needs are often not treated as reasonable and important.
b. If I am angry or upset, this is often not taken seriously and I am often condescended and patronised.

5. I am almost always dependent on others for my economic support.
a. I do not get to make choices about family finances, when to spend money and on what.
b. If I am allowed to earn money at all, it will be at a lower rate than adults doing exactly the same work.

6. I am routinely ignored or told to be quiet.
a. If I am the only child in a group of people, I will often be shut out of the conversation or patronised.
b. It is considered acceptable to talk over me or to interrupt me while I am speaking.

7. When I display age-appropriate behaviour, other people find it unacceptable.
a. I cannot be ‘noisier/more active than average’ in a public place without people questioning my right to be in that place.
b. If I am ‘noisier/more active than average’ in a public place I risk myself and my caregiver being thrown out.

8. I cannot speak in public to a group of people without putting people my age on trial.

9. I do not have free choice with my language. If I use ‘unacceptable’ words I will often be punished.

[...]

18. I am not usually given a choice about my place of education (or whether to participate in education). If I am sent to school I am legally expected to attend, whether it is my choice or not. If I am home educated I might not be given the choice to go to school if I so wish.
  1. If I am late to my place of education I will probably be reprimanded, even if this is the fault of my adult caregiver.
  2. I am almost never permitted to choose my educational curriculum, materials, or pace.
  3. My educational evaluations will often be based on circumstances entirely outside my control–the actions of other students, or of my caregivers, or the learning materials available to me.

[...]

20. I might not be able to attend to my bodily needs (housing, food, water, toileting, health needs, taking myself to bed) without relying on someone else to assist me.
  1. I am often forced to eat foods I do not like.
  2. People might advocate force-feeding me, and this is not often seen as abusive.
  3. My bedtime is set (often arbitrarily) by my caregiver, and I often do not have input on this.
  4. I have no choice about my living space – the house I live in, its decoration, the arrangement of furniture etc.
  5. I often have no choice about my outward appearance – haircuts, clothing etc.
Interesting! Read the full list at the link.

I have lots of photos to post from our recent doings, so will post again soon :D

Monday, March 15, 2010

On birthday parties, cake and pressies!

We had a family lunch for the girls' birthdays yesterday, Lolly is 2 on the 17th and Snail is 11 on the 26th :-o We had gourmet hotdogs and a massive cake!

Here is a foolish older brother and the cake!


Mmmmm...cake!


Cake!



Amazing Little Person garage for Lolly from Mum, Dad and Aunty :D It was a hit. Putting it together:


Playing:



Both girls love it!


A lovely flower for me from our roses :D

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Getting back to it!

We have been snowed under with life "stuff" lately, and are just getting our heads above water now. So here's to more blogging in future, this place has been sadly neglected!

We've been busy bees, Lolly and I have been out and about heaps the last couple of weeks. We have a family party for the girls' birthdays tomorrow, so will be back to post pics from that :D Lolly is two on the 17th, and Snail is 11 on the 26th! Wow!

Lolly is an adorable bundle, her speech is just amazing, she has whole complex sentences now, like "Mummy, 'snap' [crocodile] fall down on the ground," and "Mummy, poss[ums] up there go sleep!" [please possums in our roof, go to sleep you noisy buggers!]. She is a little parrot, which is hilarious when she repeats complex words like "overlocker" or "credit card", and even funnier when she declares "shit!" just after I swear about something :D

Here is a cute pic from late Feb to tide you over, here she is colouring and playing "stick"-ers on her little table and Elmo chair, nawwwww.


Little gorgeous girl with super curls!


Fast asleep on the couch with head at a breakable angle!